都說2nd year未停止過遇到怪人, 就算安在家中做宅女也自有瘋婦找你麻煩....這次不是背包客, 而是於澳洲長大的香港人[Educate小姐] (她多次強調Educate這字眼, 明顯地自覺只有她自己才受過教育).
事緣於Facebook個人status裡一句戲言 : 為何喜歡我黑髮的比金髮的多一倍?
只有一面之緣+ 是朋友的朋友的她留言 : "黑髮令你看來更專業."
我簡單的回她一句 : "我是專業的平面設計師.btw,有時髮型可反映出不同的性格."同時亦回應其他友人, 其中一句是"我真的很他X的喜歡這個髮型!! 可是很難維持這髮色..."
只想說我們幹這行的沒這個規限 ; 回應友人其實亦與她無關.
不知她是妒忌我有朋友回應, 還是刺激了她的公主病, 莫明奇妙地, 收到她洋洋百字, 非常主觀的inbox訊息. 不爽是一定的, 很最討厭人專制橫蠻. 平心靜氣地跟你討論, 你擺高姿態之餘, 還得過且過!用熱心提點做包裝, 但內裡賣的是[ 踩低人, 抬高自己]( 那對不知是白鴿眼還是狗眼不自覺地冒了出來)並滿足自己的控制慾. 以ABC, show-off英文及不說髒話為榮~ 受西方教育卻不會尊重/ 了解別人的選擇和文化, 跟北韓人沒兩樣, 哪飽讀詩書有何意思? 只有分數,人格卻負數. 你不說髒話不等於你高貴及有修養; 相反, 比沒受過教育的人還不滯 !!
你的中文有很好嗎 ? 若我每次都糾正你的中文又有何感想 ?? 老外也不會這樣糾正別人, 因為是禮貌和尊重. (去年便試過一次類似經歷, 自學OZ英語的韓國人自負得, 每句都要糾正大家的英文) 何況你憑什麼去這樣做 ? 就算你吞了一整本牛津字典也沒資格教育別人!
"無X野呀?? 唔X識ga喎 !" -----所有收到此訊息的人一定會有這反應. 不確定她是不是讀心理系, 只肯定她能醫不自醫~
你以為世界圍著你來轉麼 ? 想給你一堆屎牆圍著你之餘, 亦贈予兩句 :
1. on9又要兜
2. 白鴿眼心知就好, 做埋出黎就好X老套
我自己都好"on9" , 打從第一句起只回應[Thank you]已很足夠, 偏偏體內僅餘的正義感基因不斷滾動起來....
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Educate小姐:
LOl ohh dear hun, I even tried to simplify the English. Ok I never said you weren't professional, I said you will always look more professional with your natural hair colour. This is just from a employer's point of view, whether you like it or not people will judge you on how you present yourself. You are less likely to be taken seriously if you don't show you who you are without changing your natural look. You can ask any employers of big companies. Another thing having to change your hair colour so dramatically is not a bad thing, but it's really obvious that it will REALLY damage your hair. I had my hair blenched blonde when I was a teenage thinking it was cool, but as I got older I realized that was the biggest mistake of my life. My hair fell out so much and it looked so unhealthy. It's taken me a very long time for me to get my hair to a healthy state. You can show your character through other ways and sure hair is one way BUT if it starts to compromise the you health its not worth it. You know or maybe you don't know that the process your hair needs to go through to get to blonde is damaging. I suggest as your friend who is concern about you that you find a different way to show you character before all your hair falls out. You know black hair suits Asians for a reason, blonde hair suits Caucasian for a reason. When we try to rock out the blonde is washes you face out and you don't look as healthy and when white people do the black it makes them look washed out.
Anyways you asked for peoples opinions, I think most people who have given you an opinion has given an honest opinion. I also don't think its necessary to say "fucking" in response to someone, only cos people who swear tend to look weak. (This is from a psychology point of view) When you want to argue a point is it more affective without it.
In the end you have to feel most comfortable with how you look. If you really like the blonde, no one can force you to go black. Even an employer or whoever can't force you to do something you don't feel comfortable in. My opinion is that you look lovey with the black, we can see your facial features better, your eyes pop and your overall look is healthier
I've posted this up here as a message out of respect, since your seem quite defensive.
我 :
in honestly, I think u'r too serious and sensitive. May be we'r not familiar that's why u misunderstand what i chat with my buddies in facebook. And...u know "fuck / damn/ 屌/ 撚/ omg" that's the HK style. We love to add that when we meet our good frds! like European !!
Of cause I totally know what u'r talking about. Just want to let u know...I'm 30 yrs old and had been worked for 14 yrs in Hong Kong's society/ famous companies. I understand what HK people think especially the managment group (I still keep in touch with many ex-boss even our taste on art is totally different). Creative field is a bit different as normal office. What we need is creative thinking to improve the world (ok, start to off-topic & that's not important to u)
U still too young of this world, especially the rule of game and human mind. We should try everything which we interest in our life. If always mind what others think, then u wont be happy.
Besides, that status is not a question but IRONIC sentences. therefore I don't need to defense as I know what I'm doing.
& I think u'r over-reaction on "what people think on me? I have to explain it" That's y I'm a bit surprise of yr LONG message...make me back to the teenagers' memory !! hahaa
Anyway, thanks for your advice although I knew all of it already.
P.S.*Sometimes be a humor girl can make u more lovely ;)
Educate小姐 :
I guess it surprised me more since you are 30 that you seemed a bit immature. (Especially choosing to use the word such as "fuck" as humour LOL. Really it kind of shows lack of vocabulary.) I suggest that you don't use that word too often. I'm almost 100% sure swearing in whatever language or country isn't showing much about how educated you are. (I'm not by all means saying you’re not educated just pointing out what people from an outsiders point of view would see)
I guess maybe your English isn't the best but yeah I think I'll leave it here as it is pretty clear that you are offended. I only wrote my message as I was concerned about you and also to clear up that I wasn't suggesting you weren’t professional. Maybe its cos you think that someone 25 is telling you off I don't know. hahaha Thanks for the reply it's cute ^^ maybe FB isn't the best place for you to "express" you irony
Age doesn't mean anything hun but anyways I think I've proved my point.
LOL it's funny how you have misinterpret my intentions. I think I can conclude there is a major language barrier. hahaha you totally misunderstood me the first time and the second time LOL ok
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我:
ok ,The last advice I gonna give you is : some people dislike foul language (& some outsiders like you ) but PLEASE try to understand or respect other countries' live style even u hate it.
Even though u'r well-educated. Unfortunately your behavior is much more worse than many un-educated people that you insult others and think u'r elegant.
Come on, people always like the frank and sincere one instead of the fake-intelligent one. Whatever in your carreer or human relationship.
Good luck of yr future live!
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Educate小姐 :
Are you trying to be educated? Exactly what is your point? Now who is being sensitive and lack of humour. lol my goodness act 30 hun not 5. If you can't take peoples advice and get so offended you miss the point. Once again language barrier, wrong use of words! There is no such word as fake-intelligence lol! There were no insults thrown at you and I was being "frank" and "sincere". You just didn't like the honesty and that not everyone agrees what you have to say. You try to bully, but failed. You probably shouldn't use words in a different language you don't understand. LOL I love how you loose it and ruin your point because your so angry and defensive. I'm waiting for you to get so angry you'll delete me to prove you can't handle an adult conversation lol
..Anyways I had my 2 cents put in. I'm over this uneducated conversation that is going no where. Have fun complaining and getting upset over nothing.
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我 :
Don't bull shit anymore pls. U really impolite from the 1st message.
And, why everyone should obey or agree or say "yes! o,u'r right!" to your opinion? Why u still can't understand what is RESPECT ?
Are you the queen ? Everyone has their own decision and life experience.
Will u happy If I do the same thing on you ?
U really impolite since the 1st message. I really don't know what's wrong with u ?
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